When someone close to us is struggling with their mental health, it can be hard to know what to do. We want to help—but we might feel unsure, helpless, or afraid of saying the wrong thing. The truth is you don’t need to have all the answers. What matters most is showing up with empathy, patience, and a willingness to listen.

Supporting a loved one through mental health challenges can make a world of difference and sometimes, it can even save a life.

Recognising the Signs

Mental health issues can show up in different ways, and not everyone will openly say they’re struggling. Here are some signs that someone you care about might be dealing with a mental health issue:

Emotional Signs:

• Mood swings or increased irritability
• Persistent sadness, anxiety, or feelings of emptiness
• Hopelessness or feeling like a burden
• Withdrawal from social activities or relationships

Behavioural Signs:

• Changes in eating or sleeping habits
• Lack of energy or motivation
• Avoiding responsibilities or work
• Increased use of alcohol or drugs

Physical Signs:

• Frequent headaches, stomach aches, or other unexplained pain
• Neglecting personal hygiene
• Restlessness or agitation

What You Can Do to Help

1. Start a Conversation – Don’t wait for a crisis to check in. A simple, “You don’t seem like yourself lately—how are you doing?” can open the door to a deeper conversation. Let them talk without judgment or interruption.

Avoid saying: “Just cheer up” or “Other people have it worse.”
Try instead: “I’m here for you” or “That sounds really tough—how can I support you?”

2. Be Patient and Present – Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Your continued presence—even when they push you away—can provide reassurance. Just sitting with someone and letting them know they’re not alone can be incredibly comforting.

3. Encourage Professional Help – Support them in reaching out to a GP, counsellor, or mental health service. Offer to help find resources or even go with them to an appointment if they feel anxious.

4. Educate Yourself – Understanding what your loved one might be going through—whether it’s anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, or another condition—helps you offer better support and reduces frustration or confusion.

5. Respect Boundaries – While it’s important to help, you can’t force someone to open up or seek treatment. Let them set the pace, and focus on being a supportive presence rather than a “fixer.”

Coping Skills You Can Encourage (or Practice Together)

• Mindfulness or Meditation – even short daily practices can help with anxiety or stress
• Daily Routines – structure can support stability and improve mental health
• Physical Activity – walking, stretching, or dancing can lift mood naturally
• Journaling – helps to process thoughts and reduce overwhelm
• Creative Outlets – drawing, writing, or music can be powerful forms of emotional release
• Sleep Hygiene – creating a calming bedtime routine supports better rest and emotional balance

Taking Care of Yourself Too

Supporting someone else can be emotionally draining, especially if their mental health struggles are severe or long-lasting. It’s not selfish to care for yourself—it’s essential.

• Set healthy boundaries
• Talk to someone you trust about your own feelings
• Take breaks and protect your own mental space
• Seek support if you’re feeling overwhelmed

You can’t pour from an empty cup—caring for yourself helps you care for others more effectively.

Conclusion

You don’t need to have all the solutions to make a difference. Simply being there, listening, and showing that you care is incredibly powerful. Mental health struggles can feel isolating—but love, empathy, and connection can bring hope.

When we support one another, we all grow stronger.

If you or someone you know requires mental health support, please fill out our online referral form or contact us here:

Email: mhsupport@ncnw.co.uk

Phone: 0151 345 6454